Money Can Break or Build Relationships

I give up my rights on the assets….

Why!

Read this story…

As an adopted son I have inheritance rights on all the assets of my adoptive parents…

Some small minds may question that where is adoption?

These small minds are blind to the facts…

Here are the facts;

  • Birth parents send a child to the childless couple when he was two years old…
  • Birth parents did not spend a single penny on this child till the death…
  • Adoptive parents not allowed this child to accept anything from birth parents….
  • Even when this child requested birth parents some money they are not dared enough to consider my request… And they used to console me saying that your adoptive parents will get angry over us so you better ask them only…

The bottom-line!

Birth parents transferred all the rights of this child to adoptive parents.

Adoptive parents assumed all the rights of this child.

So!

I am the only son of my adoptive parents…

Therefore…

I am the only person having inheritance rights on the assets of my adoptive mother…

And yet…

Why I have decided to give up the right over my assets?

Reason – 1

First of all my adoptive mother never treated me like her son…

I have never get the love from my adoptive mother during my child days…

I have never felt ownership of these assets as an adult… So this is the first reason

Reason – 2

My biological brother brainwashing my adoptive mother that I’m wasting money for the business…

He’s trying to grab the assets from her…

These small people can’t understand my dreams…

So This is the second reason.

Reason – 3

As I told you already I have full inheritance rights on the assets of my my adoptive mother…

And yet!

I wanted my adoptive mother to equally give assets to all the biological sisters and biological brother…

Even so!

My  biological sisters never understand this fact…

And they think that my  biological brother is their friend and I am their enemy…

In the recent episode that happens recently in NDG all the sister come to fight against me…

So!

I don’t want to break my head for them?

So this is the reason number three…

Reason – 4

I am in deep cash flow problem…

There is pressure from all the sides…

It is effecting my health also…

Therefore, I have been requested my adoptive mother to take the loan.

I made this request in august first week of 2014.

Even after 7 months nothing happened as of now.

My adoptive mother under the influence of my biological brother passing the time.

It appears to me that…

He is indifferent & sinister…

My adoptive mother is heart less & irresponsible…

This is reason number four.

Reason – 5

I’m not a man of impotence…

I’m a man of courage…

I am like a warrior in the battlefield…

I know intuitively that I am winning this battle…

That means I can make money, create Wealth and buy the assets….

So!

Unlike my biological brother, I don’t need to beg my adoptive mother for the assets…

This is the reason number five.

Does that mean I don’t require loan?

No!

I need loan to lead this company to success…

I do whatever possible to protect my company…

If my adoptive mother still drags the issue I know what to do…

She is going to have a tough time with me…

The reason I am so harsh?

It is the questions of my survival…

It is the question of my dreams…

It is the question of my life…

So!

I don’t let loose these people…

The moral of the story is simple…

Money can build or break relationships…

Want to comment?

Go ahead and do that…

Every comment gets my reply….

Open Your Heart to Heal Your Emotional Body

I have decided to open my heart and express through my series of blog posts.

This is to vent out my emotions and  to heal my mind.

What do I mean by opening the heart?

I want to share my childhood story.

I want to share my deepest painful emotions…

I want share how childhood pain impacts the rest of life…

Here is the brief story…

I was sent to adoption when I was just two years old.

My birth mother sent me to her sister who was childless.

By the way it was not a legal adoption.

I don’t know exact reasons for sending me for adoption.

Whatever the reasons it  impacted on birth parents, adoptive parents and me as adopted child.

What was the impact?

  1. It  impacted on birth parents because their child was abandoned.
  2. It  impacted on adoptive parents because attachment issues with the me.
  3. It  impacted me a lot in various aspects of my life.

Take a look at what a renowned psychologist says:

Marlou Russell, a Santa Monica, Calif., psychologist quotes about impact on adoption… “But you cannot separate a child from its mother without an impact. There is always an impact.”
Why my birth parents sent me away?
Marlou Russell, a Santa Monica, Calif., psychologist quotes about impact on adoption…”If my adopted parents chose me that means there was someone else who didn’t choose me.”

That being said !

Now I want to tell the world the painful childhood emotions and how they are impacting my life even today.

This is what I mean by opening my heart.

Why am I telling the story ?

For the last five years I have been battling with my entrepreneurial journey.

I have been facing many life challenges in the process.

In view of the above, I have been spending some time on  spiritual literature.

In this process, I have discovered two very important life secrets.

  1. Childhood trauma pulls you back from reaching your success
  2. Cancer, heart diseases and many other chronic diseases are a direct result of suppressed childhood trauma.

So!

I want to release this pent-up negative energy in my emotional body.

It is to live this life with health and peace.

In a sense, it is a spiritual healing journey for me and my family members.

What my family members will think about this?

I am 100% sure that my family members treat this as just another drama to grab the assets from my adoptive mother.

I can understand this because they are small-minded people and they don’t think beyond this.

That is why…

I have decided to give up my right to the assets…

You can read my blog post  I give up my rights on the assets here….

Hopefully, my family members read all my blog posts with open heart and respond to my feelings.

This will fill the gaps and restore my connection with all my family members.

It is a spiritual and emotional healing…

So I welcome the comments of my family members….

There is no need to suppress their emotions…

It is an opportunity for them to share their pain also…

We all need resolve all the inner conflicts…

So!

It is a spiritual healing process for everyone…

Is it good thing to resolve inner conflicts?

Comment whatever you feel right below…

 

Startup Problems and Ruining Relationships

How my Relationship with My Brother Ruined

If you want to fully understand this story, you need to go back to 15 years .

It was around 2000

My younger  brother not settled in the life thus far.

He was not even a graduate…

My  parents were not in a position to take his responsibility.

So, out of love I want to take his responsibility.

I was thinking how to settle him in the absence of proper education….

I didn’t get any idea…

Days are passing…

One day when I was working in Kakinada I went to Archie’s gifts and greeting shop…

While spending time there I got an idea…

Why can’t I set up such shop so that he will settle?

I asked shop owner some details and I come to a conclusion that it is feasible.

One day when he came to me I have taken him to that shop and showed it.

I put my idea into his mind…

Naturally he was very happy.

Then!

Somehow I gathered the money and  gave to him.

And in a few months a new business was began…

But unfortunately business was not doing well…

He was asking money as and when he requires…

I am doing whatever that is possible…

I want this business to be sustained…

Any way!

Finally the business was stabilized…

Then he got married…

Today it is the business that is bread and butter for him.

I am happy and also proud that what the parents could not do I have done it for him…

15 years lapsed…

Today

I am in dire need of money as my business is struggling to survive.

Obviously I expect help from him…

But to my shock he was proven to be a sinister …

A few days back I asked him pay back some money as I was facing cash flow problems.

Did you know what he told?

“Give the pro-note I have given to you so that I will give it.”

I have given him money for his business….

It is a love capital…

So where is the question of pro-note.

Then!

I understood.

He doesn’t want to help me to get out of my problem.

Even more sinful thing…

I come to know that he was negatively influencing my  mother….

His intention is to grab all the assets owned by my  mother.

How heartless and sinister he is…

Why I have used the word “sinister”?

He’s the person behind dragging bank loan issue for last 6 months…

It proves beyond any doubt that he doesn’t want to help me….

 What is an irony?

The person whom I helped for his business indirectly trying to kill my business….

Had the loan work finished by before the November month 2014, my business would have stabilized by this time.

Anyway!

I understand the reason behind his  intentions…

These people give birth to the children and don’t take the responsibility of bringing them up.

How my Relationship with My Sister Ruined

If you want to understand you need to read this story…

The past story

She’s my youngest  sister….

The story I am about to tell happened 15 years back.

She was just a graduate then…

By the time  mother already died.

Father  not enjoying good health nor financially well off…

Nobody was willing to take her responsibility…

At the time I was decided to help her to settle in life.

I have requested my father-in-law to use his good offices to find a suitable person for her…

He almost shrived for more than one year in this work…

My father-in-law and my wife used to discuss about this matter all along that one year…

I have seen a number of persons but I was not satisfied…

Here I must tell you why I was not satisfied….

She was the youngest daughter of my birth parents…

First three daughters were well settled by the time…

So my intention was that she should not feel inferior to them…

Anyway!

At last we have found one match and she got married….

I have met all the expenses for the marriage…

I have celebrated this marriage to the best of my ability…

What all I am trying to share is that I’m so loving and caring…

A few days back…

Few days back I called her and told my problem…

And I asked her to do something…

Days passed and there is no response from her…

I asked my wife to call her once again and to know what happened to my request…

And to our utter surprise she told that she can’t help….

What hurt me so much…

Even she doesn’t have a minimum courtesy of telling the same thing to me..

This is another bitter experience after I quit the Job.

The bottom-line

When you’re financially well off family members come to you and praise you…

If you’re down no one cares you…

That is the moral of story…

Do you want to react?

Comment below…

I will respond….

Unwanted Child Part-1

I feel like an unwanted child for both my birth parents and adoptive parents.

Let me share some of my childhood pains…

Unwanted child for birth parents:

I was sent to adoptive parents when I was just 3 years old.

I failed to understand how parents sent just a 3 years child to others.

This is even important…

I was told that there was no request from adoptive parents for the child…

Without a request why my birth parents sent? For what?

Is it for adoption or guardianship?

Where is the need for guardianship?

Both parents were alive and I am their first child…

So!

It is kind of a supply without the demand.

A birth mother sent me to her sister as she don’t have children.

Other than this what else could be the reason…

They simply send me away…

Unwanted child for adoptive parents:

As I already told you there is no request from adoptive mother for child from her sister….

Obviously!

There is no need  for her to bring up this child with love and affection.

If they are committed about adoption why they have not adopted legally?

Quite simply It is an adoption without any legality…

In this process I lost my childhood…

Naturally I didn’t get love and affection from adoptive mother…

Intangible evidence:

Love and affection can’t be measured …

And however love and affection can be felt by the child.

“I have no sweet, caring and loving bio memory in my emotional body to recollect and enjoy it…”

Here is tangible evidence…

During my entire childhood I have no memory of  my birthday celebrations….

This  may surprises you.

This seems unbelievable…

But it is a fact…

So!

Am I  worthy of loving?

Even today this question unanswered…

The recent example proves that…

For the last 1 year I have been facing acute cash flow problem in my business.

Not to think of business expenses even daily essential needs, we are unable to meet…

Six months back I personally went to her and explained about the situation…

Requested to go for loan as we have assets worth more than one crore….

For the last six months she has been dodging the issue unmindful of my situation…

There are 1 Crore value of assets in the name of my adoptive mother.

I just asked just 5 lakhs of loan that is repayable to the bank.

But she is not willing to go for loan…

The same question again…

Does she really love me?

Why she is so indifferent and inconsiderate ?

Perhaps she is thinking that I may squander her wealth.

Whom I have to share this pain?

I don’t know to whom I have to share my pain…

My birth parents were no more…

My adoptive father was no more….

Oh God please clean the heart of my adoptive mother….

I welcome all the comments

There is no need to keep quiet…

Please comment…

I will respond….

Click here to read Unwanted Child Part – 2

Reason Why You Feel Powerless

Do you feel powerless always or at least sometimes?

By and large you eat nourishing diet and yet you feel empty always…

You browse Internet and watch inspirational videos…

For some time you will feel fully charged but after some time you come back to the same feeling of despair and frustration….

Do you think that you are alone plagued with this problem?

No! You are not alone…

The most of humanity is in this same woeful state…

I have decided discover the real reason why we feel powerless always….

I have been trying to figure out the real reason but could not do so till a few days back…

During last three days I happened to see David Hawkins quotes…

I find it very insightful …

Then an idea flashed in my mind…

Why not find out answer to my perennial question?

I have gathered all the David Hawkins quotes and started meditating those quotes…

After a long contemplated period of time I could find answer to the above question is…

I felt a deep sense of relief and I could perceive a whole lot of energy in my body…

Here I’m not giving any interpretation of David Hawkins quotes…

Simply what I have done I have organized these quotes the way it will give answer to the question that I have been referring here…

So take a long breathe… Sit in a relaxed and comfortable position and start reading, assimilating and understanding each one of these following quotes…

I am so confident that the time you spend here will change your life …

Remove Clutter from your mind:

Pain is your creation:

“FEELINGS are programs; that is, they are LEARNED RESPONSES that often have a purpose.” – David Hawkins

“The other person merely MIRRORS BACK what we are PROJECTING onto them.” – David Hawkins

“REPRESSED and suppressed feelings require counter-energy to keep them submerged. It takes energy to hold down our feelings. As these feelings are RELINQUISHED, the energy that had been holding down the negativity is now freed for constructive uses.” – David Hawkins

Getting older is a period of great opportunity to sift out the RELEVANT from the IRRELEVANT.” – David Hawkins

Focus on what is needed and avoid all the distractions:

“I just realized that I don’t have to have an OPINION about everything–WHAT A RELIEF !” – David Hawkins

“It is not necessary to destroy or attack ILLUSIONS but merely to allow them to FALL AWAY.” – David Hawkins

Clean your home:

“Like the sun, the inner Self is always shining, but because of negative clouds, we do not experience it. It is not necessary to program oneself with the truth; it is only necessary to REMOVE that which is FALSE.” – David Hawkins

“Spiritual evolution occurs as the result of REMOVING obstacles and not actually ACQUIRING anything new.” – David Hawkins

Are You Removing Or Adding?

“At every instant, one is really making a CHOICE between HEAVEN OR HELL. The CUMULATIVE EFFECT of all these choices DETERMINES the calibrated level of consciousness and one’s karmic and spiritual fate.” – David Hawkins

“To best serve the world, seek enlightenment and transcend ILLUSIONS rather than contribute to them.” – David Hawkins

Become LOVE because you are love:

“Prayer: Holding in mind what you DESIRE, but without adding desire to it.” – David Hawkins

“In ACCEPTANCE, there is a decreased preoccupation with “DOINGNESS,” a growing focus on the quality of BEINGNESS itself,” – David Hawkins

“Everything you see happening is the consequence of that WHICH YOU ARE.” – David Hawkins

“We change the world not by what we say or do, but as a consequence of what we have BECOME.” – David Hawkins

Become Love success will follow:

“SUCCESS isn’t something you have to get; its just the automatic consequence of INTEGRITY. If you’re the best carpenter around, you don’t have to advertise. INTEGRITY” – David Hawkins

“We can tell if we are really SURRENDERED when we feel okay either way; it’s okay with us “IF IT HAPPENS”, and it’s okay with us “IF IT DOESN’T”. Therefore, to be surrendered does not mean to be passive. It is BEING ACTIVE in a POSITIVE WAY.” – David Hawkins

Allow Yourself to Move Forward:

“It’s pleasing to discover that it isn’t necessary to DRIVE oneself forward; instead, one can simply ALLOW oneself TO MOVE FORWARD as blocks are removed. Thus, one becomes attracted by the future rather than propelled by the past.” – David Hawkins

“Every THOUGHT, ACTION, DECISION OR FEELING creates an EDDY in the Inter-Locking, Inter-Balancing, Ever-Moving Energy Fields of Life, leaving A PERMANENT RECORD for all of time.” – David Hawkins

LOVE minus JUDGMENT make you leader

“One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of OPTIMISM and a willingness to be NON JUDGMENTAL of others will counterbalance the negativity of 90,000 individuals who calibrate at the lower weakening levels.” – David Hawkins

When we are born your clean…

As we grow we keep on adding unnecessary clutter in our minds…

That becomes huge load on us and literally we feel burdened and always

The only way you feel light is still removing the clutter and not adding new filth…

Clean mind is like fully charged high-voltage device…

What will you do with that power is up to you…

I hope this time enriched your life…

Bookmark this page and reread it again and again so that your consciousness grows…

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I Let My Son to Follow His Heart

I have finished my dinner and came back to my home office. It is about 11PM. I’m feeling sleepy and yet I want to finish my tasks before I sleep…

I am doing my work and fell into sleep in the chair without my knowledge…

Suddenly I heard the voice of knocking the door and I suddenly woke up… My wife came to the office with a glass of milk and some fruits… It is her regular practice before her sleep…

I’m feeling giddiness and some discomfort in my body….

I finished drinking milk….

As the discomfort continued I have dropped  the idea of continuing the work and along with my wife gone to our bedroom…

I’m trying to sleep while the feeling of discomfort continued…

My wife is comforting me… and asking what is the problem…

I have explained my problem to her and that situation continued for about 30 minutes and finally I vomited…

After that discomfort eased and I slept….

As usual I woke up in the morning and visited my home office for planning my work…

See! this is my regular practice…

I plan that day work then I go for the breakfast…

While I am planning I remembered what happened yesterday night…

I am thinking of…. why I vomited? What went wrong?

I rewind yesterday events…

Yesterday about 3 o’clock my son told his intention of joining civil service coaching …

As usual I expressed my anguish and feelings….

Then I came back to the office and started doing my work…

I couldn’t concentrate on my work  as the thoughts are pouring in my mind about my son’s decision…

So this was what happened yesterday …

Here what happened?

I was under deep emotional pain for about 3 hours

This emotional pain had its impact on my body…

So the yesterday’s ill-health has been caused by the stressful thinking…

You may be wondering why I was so stressful…

The reason for my stress is that I have been trying to change my son’s mind about his career…

Whatever I say that is not appealing to him…

It is a simple clash of opinions between a father and son…

Here the father trying to discourage the decision of his son based on his own experiences…

On the other hand the son trying to follow his opinion based on what? I don’t Know…

I foresee frustrating life for my son…

And my son is foreseeing a wonderful life for him…

How things will turnout? Only time will tell…

Okay now I have to tell you something that is beyond a father and son relationship…

If I continued to argue with my son or try to change his opinion it leads to friction between me and my son…

I don’t want any friction between my son and me….

Then I have to find a way out…

Here what is the way out?

The only way out is don’t dry to change his opinion…

So I must stop y trying to  change his opinion…

And I have to allow him to pursue his dream… Even though it contradicts my values and viewpoints…

Here  I can perceive that my is also under stress unable to convince me….

Look!

I have learned a great lesson that one should’t try to change others unless they are receptive…

So the simple conclusion is that in the absence of receptivity  it appears to them that I am trying to  disrespect their individuality and uniqueness…

I never intended to disrespect others opinion more so my family members…

Here what happened I have tried to fed him when he is not hungry…

So it is my fault…

And naturally it has its impact on my body in the form of stress…

But anyway I’m letting my son to follow his heart even though it contradicts my values …

Here I must remind you why I am so emotional here…

I quit the government service realizing that it is not possible to follow the values of honesty, integrity, financial freedom and overall growth…

That is why my entrepreneurial journey began…

My life goal is to tell people the pitfalls of govt jobs and the benefits of online entrepreneurship…

As I mentioned…

Letting my son follow his heart doesn’t mean I’m changing my core values…

I continue to stand by my values and live my life accordingly ….

I continue to post my views and experiences about the bureaucracy and about my entrepreneurial journey in this blog…

By the way do you know?  you can make a living simply blogging…

I reveal my blogging blueprint soon…

So keep following my blog..

Civil Service Means

Is it power?

Is it money?

Is it service?

The phrase civil services denote it is service….

Those who are holding these services are public servants…

Majority civil servants do not think it as a service….

They think it as power and money…

Otherwise why there is so much of craze?

Here I recall one of the incidents that happened recently…

A fourth class employee Municipal Corporation came to serve a notice in my house…

When he knocks the door my youngest son opened the door…

After some time I heard some tussle between my son and that person…

I  got down and shouted to him that “don’t you have patience dealing with children…. After all you are our servant”

He could not comprehend what I’m talking…

He continued his argument and said that “I am not your servant I am a government employee”

Here the problem is that public not realizing that these people are servants and they are supposed to serve with utmost devotion and dedication…

And these servants never think that they are servants and what they are doing is service…

Till people realizes there is no end to this ignorance…

Civil service is a noble job…

Those who are really concerned about people and want to dedicate their life in the service of people need to enter into this service…

If their intentions are power and money this is not the right job…

And they are bound to live inauthentic life for which they have to pay the price…

Best Thing I have Given to My Children

One thing I have given to my children is FREEDOM…

Right from the childhood they are exercising and enjoying this weapon of FREEDOM…

Though some of their decisions are not in tune with my wishes yet I have never imposed my decisions on them…

What it implies is that I have been respecting their individuality and their wisdom…

Why I have used the phrase “triple edged sword”?

It means freedom can be used in three ways…

1. Use it fully to live life according to their heart desires…

This gives them the highest joy in their life….

2.Not realizing its value under using it….

This does not give highest joy and yet they can live satisfactory life…

3.Misusing the freedom…

This is the problematic zone… It has painful consequences in their life…

Hopefully my children will take wise decisions and enjoy their life

 

KOBEN is a Good Opportunity to my Son

When I am struggling to settle in the life I have no Mentor to guide me….

At the time I have no idea of entrepreneurship…

I have no alternative but to join the government service….

Subsequently I have realized the benefits of entrepreneurship and wriggled out of job….

I’m sure my brother-in-law also has undergone more or less the same circumstances….

I think that he may also follow my suit one-day….

Considering my mental trauma I have decided to create a platform so that by the time my children finished their graduation they can take it forward if they desired so…

That is a one of the reasons Koben marketing solutions came to existence….

Koben is on the verge of successful path….

But it seems to me that my son is blind to this opportunity right under his nose…

This is to make him aware that opportunity is knocking…

Whether he opens the door or ignores it?

10 Simple Questions To My Son

1. Have you taken my past experience into consideration? And if so will you agree or disagree with my opinion…

2. Have you taken your mama’s experience into consideration? And if so what is mama’s opinion about civil services….

3. Have you taken your mom’s opinion and her experience into consideration?

4. Do you aware that Government job fetch meager salaries?

5. If you consider Government job as a career, are you ready to lead simple or mediocre life?

6. Don’t you have biggest ambitions in your life? And if so why you’re not exploring the possibilities…

7. Have you considered all other options before come to the conclusion that government job is the best one?

8. Have you decided what you want from this life?

9. Are you conscious of your decision as it is against my core life values?

10. Don’t you want part of Koben team?

Before taking important life decision you need to answer the above relevant questions so that you can take a carefully thought-out decision…

These questions are framed with an intention of helping you in your decision making…